Normally, I like to site works written and published by followers of Christ but when this article came across my social media I found it worth sharing. It was written by Simi and published at SelfMade, dispenser of popular lifestyle, career, and business information. Simi’s article offers plain insights that some in dating relationships need to listen to. Far too many singles endure bad relationships and marry unfit partners mostly because they cannot tolerate the idea of being alone. In reality it is better to be alone than married to a person uninterested in pursuing a life of self-sacrificing, caring marriage.
(Disclaimer: this is not a secret message intended for any of the dating couples in my life.)
Many parents, siblings, church leaders, and friends may see plainly the one they care about is blindly heading toward marriage while either blind to or just ignoring huge warning signs. Usually those caring people don’t know what to say and end up not saying anything. Here’s what they should say: “I love you and want the best for you so I must tell you something you may not want to hear. The person you are dating does not appear to be the kind of person who will be able to be a caring, Christ-like mate for you. Can we talk about it?”
If you are dating someone and see any of these warning signs in the relationship you likely should end it and wait for God to provide a Christ-like person to be with and consider for marriage. One additional sign needs to be added to Simi’s list not stated below. If the person is not a born-again follower of Jesus, end the relationship. Second Corinthians 6:14 instructs believers, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” A believer marrying a non-believer is always a bad idea. The two will not have the same values, hopes, and dreams in life.
These red flags should tell you to exit the relationship:
- You don’t want a relationship yet you don’t want to be alone.
- Your loved ones don’t approve of your partner.
- Trust is lacking in your relationship.
- You think marriage will fix your partner.
- They don’t want to get married.
- You think your partner is too good for you.
- You can’t be yourself with your partner.
- Your partner is mean to you.
- Your partner is rude.
- You just know there’s something wrong.
- They speak badly about their exes.
- They don’t make an effort to get to know your loved ones.
- You constantly make excuses for them.
- They are not willing to talk when disagreements come up.
- They are always pushing your boundaries.
- They believe that the world owes them.
- The world revolves around them.
- They impose double standards.